Mostly I just want to say that people judge too much. And jump to conclusions too much. What may be easy for you, could be like climbing a mountain to some one else. A big mountain, like Everest. So don't just assume that some one can just change because you say "It's easy" or "Just do it" or "Well, you have to" Because no, they don't. Let them do it in their own way in their own time. Like Sister Hansma said in the Family History Library "Anything that's worth while takes time." So there.
And back to the judging thing... if you don't know the details, or especially if you don't know the person, don't judge. I mean, sometimes don't you ever do anything you might be ashamed of. It doesn't mean you're a bad person and in the end you don't have the same goals as everyone else. It just means you messed up. But that's the great thing about the atonement is it lets you get back up and keep progressing and moving forward. you don't know what that person's situation is. What they've done, what they're doing, etc, and you don't need to know. Especially if you aren't very close to them. What you can do is show love and support. Just live how you know you're supposed to and trust in the Lord. this isn't coming out how I want it to. My point is not to judge. Don't think you know better or what is supposed to happen or ... ugh hopefully from my scattered thoughts you can pick up why you shouldn't judge. I'll try to explain more but I've never been great at explaining things.
Every one's situation is unique to themselves. I think that's a way Heavenly Father shows his love for us is by giving us all trials and tribulations that are for us. Like he wasn't just like "I'll give Asia a problem with porn and America a problem with coveting." No he went with each of us and gave us what it was we could each handle and trials that could bring us closer to him individually. I think it's amazing. That's a lot of people.
There maybe that's why you should just love others and not judge. And if you are judging maybe you should pray for help to stop and stop talking condesendingly (?) to me about who you are judging because quite frankly I'm sick of it. And the end.
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This reminded me of a time when I cried at church. A million people seemed to swarm around me, people I didn't even talk to very often normally. Everyone wanted to ask if I was OK and what was wrong and I hated it. I was just trying to get to the bathroom where I could regain my composure and be alone.
I like to leave people alone when they cry (unless I really am very close to them or they ask for my comfort).
Yes, judging is bad, and all of us have probably done it. I know that I have and have usually been proven wrong and made to feel foolish.
Also, a comment about trials. The Lord has given us commandments and when we choose not to follow them, we bring trials on ourselves. There are natural trials that happen to everyone, like the death of a loved one, or unexpected health problem. But, many problems we bring on ourselves because of our disobedience. But, we never know, as you pointed out what brought on another's trials. I have learned that it is better to just love everyone and even if we know for sure some of their short comings, we can love them anyway, even if we disapprove. (Except if they are my children, then I will definitely say something.) Also, there is a fine line between not judging and standing for truth and righteousness that we need to be aware of.
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